Perfectionism and the Law of Attraction

Several times in the recent past I've been in a place where the discussion has involved the concept of perfectionism. I thought I'd take the time to delve into the concept here in the hope that what I'm learning will be of benefit to you.

Probably one of the most profound realizations for me, was when I realized that Perfectionist's rather than looking for things to be right, as most of us would believe, they're actually on a mission to find the flaws.

As a perfectionist the ideal is to have it so RIGHT that you're continually on the lookout for what's not right which is just another way of saying you're looking for what's wrong, for the flaws, the mistakes.

This was a huge re-frame for me, as it has been for a couple of other people I've talked about it with since.

If your belief is your thoughts create your reality and you're looking for what's not right, what a contradictory message you're giving out. How can you possibly create a wonderful life if you're always on the lookout for what's not right with it.

I'd like you to really follow this line of thinking through with me very carefully ... if you believe that your thoughts create your reality and you're always looking for what's not right then just what are you going to get more of?

So, if by some chance perfectionism is somewhat present in an area of your life ... how about doing some re-framing of your own? You could ask yourself, 'What's right about ... ?'

My challenge to you is: Make a list at the end of each day of at least 5 things that went right in your day. If you'd like to be held accountable then please take the opportunity to post what's gone right in your life in the comments.

Love life and live it creatively,

Leanne
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From Ask and it is Given: Abraham and Esther Hicks

All-That-Is Is Benefiting from My Existence. No matter what has caused your unique point of view to come about - it has come about. YOU do exist; you are thinking; you are perceiving; you are asking - and you are being answered. And All-That-Is is benefiting from your existence and from your point of view.
~Abraham/Esther Hicks

I came across this awesome affirmation thropugh an internet friend, Linda Miller in Adland and it really captured my imagination. So much so, I thought I'd share it with you.

If I exist, if I am thinking, if I am perceiving, if am asking and I am being answered ... and I don't like what I'm getting then I really have to stop and think ... just what am I asking for?

And the next question would be ... So just what do I really want?

When I get stuck in my stuff, which most people do on occasions, because let's face it, it's not about having stuck our stuff come up that's the challenge, it's how long we allow ourselves to stay stuck in our stuff.

In actual fact having our stuff come up is a good thing and cause for celebration because it allows us to look at the beliefs underlying it, see if it still fits and release it if it's not.

And it's that simple, when we pause and recognize it for what it really is: the Universe allowing us the opportunity to revise our beliefs or our rule book. Simple but sometimes not all that easy: pause, check out the fit, keep or discard and move on.

In the realm of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) there is a process called 'Pattern Interupts' which are questions designed to 'interrupt' a behaviour or a pattern.

These questions can be used to focus your mind on what you really want. Question such as:

• So what do I really want?
• Yeah, but what if I could have it all?
• Yeah, but what if it did work?

The next time you find yourself in a position where you're presented with the idea that it's not possible to have something or you've 'received' something you would rather not have ... ask one of these questions and see how quickly you get your answer.

What I've found is ... the quicker and more often I ask myself the questions the quicker the answers come and the better the questions the better the answers.

Can think of any questions to add to the list?

Love life and live it creatively,

Leanne

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