Four Myths About Building Self-confidence

People who are self-confident believe in themselves and feel they're capable of achieving what they want in life and dealing with any situation that they may have to face. They've an aura of self-assurance, which is apparent to others.

People like to spend time with them; they feel comfortable and secure in their presence.

In contrast, there are many people who are reasonably talented,and lack self-confidence. These people can be victims of the several myths that surround self-confidence.

1. People Are Born With Self-Confidence
This is one of the foremost myths about self-confidence; it's a quality that cannot be acquired.

Nothing can be farther from truth. Self-confidence is a skill and like other skills, it can be built. All you need is right guidance and a belief in yourself.

2. Looks and Upbringing Determine Self-Confidence
Self-confidence has nothing to do with either looks or upbringing. It's a reflection of one's internal beliefs. The only way people can overcome this myth is by learning to believe in themselves.

In fact, talent and self-confidence are not inter-related. There are scores of talented actors and actresses who do very well in their professions but whose personal lives are torn by lack of self-confidence.

Talent can be an important component of self-confidence, but it's certainly not a substitute for self-confidence. Tap into the good feelings you've got when you're using the skills you possess.

3. Recognition Determines Self-Confidence
Yet another myth is self-confidence is directly proportional to the recognition and praise that an individual gets in his or her life.

There's little doubt that recognition and praise from others instigates good feelings about yourself, and boosts your self-confidence. But you can't depend on the praise of others. Self-confident people are good at recognizing when they've done something well which operates outside of anything others may or may not say about them.

For example a friend of mine who's quite dark skinned went to school and was often teased about his colour ... he remembers distinctly going home and looking in a mirror and realizing how good looking he was. He has the most amazing self-confidence even to this day.

Toddlers are a good example. They believe in themselves which gives them the self-confidence to try to do things they've never done before, like learning to walk and talk.

In fact, no child comes into the world knowing all the skills. But it does not take long to teach children most of the basic skills. Then, why should it be difficult for adults to learn new skills or brave new challenges?

4. Risk Takers are Self-Confident
Another myth is that only self-confident people can afford to take risks. Again, not true.

In fact, self-confident people are more realistic about their capabilities. They know what they can do, and what they can't do. More importantly, they know how to deal with failures.

In contrast, people who lack self-confidence are afraid of failure. This fear prevents them from taking on new tasks. They constantly pine for the approval of others, and when they don't get it they end up losing their self-confidence.

Self -Confidence is a State of Mind
It's not dependent upon a person's beauty or looks, where they were born or how they were brought up. It flows from a person's self-belief and this belief can be built. All we need to do is to debunk the myths that self- onfidence cannot be acquired or that self-confidence is a byproduct of exceptional knowledge, skills and luck.

Once you do this, you'll find it easier to acquire the same magnetic powers that the self-confident people you admire have.

Remember: Everyone's good at something ... sort for the things you're good at, acknowledge yourself for them and very soon you'll notice you're self-confidence growing.

Love life and live it creatively and on purpose!

Leanne
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